Sunday, October 10, 2004

Secrets to a happy marraige, part 1

Said a crochety old crank of a professor (who had been happily married for over 50 years), "the secret to a happy marraige is for both parties to believe that they are more fortunate to have the other person than the other person is to have them. It won't do much for your self-esteem, but it will do wonders for your relationship." Too right, Jerry, too right.

1 comment:

hendrix said...

The Professor got it nearly right. It does wonders for your self-esteem also because while you are telling your partner how wonderful they are and how lucky you are to be with them, they are telling you how wonderful you are and how blessed they are to be with you. Because you're both continually bolstering each others self-confidence then you don't encounter any of the usual problems caused by an unequal balance of power (feelings of inferiority, jealousy, etc) so you're not continually looking to attack or defend your position by belittling/insulting the other person. Result - a happy, strong and mutually fufilling relationship.