Tuesday, August 01, 2006


Remember the whole name thing identity crisis issue of a few months yore?

(Here'r the links if you want to jog your memory:

I, Dentity Crisis

The Criteria

What's In A Name?

The Announcement. Maybe.)

I know y'all are sick of reading about how in love I am, how perfect he is, blah blah blah, and there's not a hell of a lot else going on at the mo, so I thought at this point I'd give you an update on the name situation.

While most people found it (predictably) difficult to call me by a new name, I've taken advantage of my temporary employment to give 'Mara' a test run. I work 30 hours a week in a small office a couple blocks from my flat, and everyone here knows me as Mara. Swell!

I actually expected it to be a lot wierder than it was. From the first day I never hesitated to answer to it, never once accidently said "Stephanie speaking" when I picked up the phone. It was all surprisingly seamless. So that's good.

Here's the funny bit: I had just settled on 'Mara' a couple days before I met the Pirate. When I went to that party I intended to introduce myself as Mara, but completely forgot to. So he became the very last person to meet me as 'Stephanie.' And now I can't imagine him calling me by any other name. I love the sound of it when he whispers it to me at night. For the first time I actually like the sound of my own name. Oh, the irony.

So I don't know what I'm going to do in the long run. But it doesn't seem to matter as much any more.

(Sorry about that. I really did try to write a post w/o mentioning the P-word, but that's just the way my mind has been (non)functioning lately.)


helena said...

Use both. That's what Judegirl did. We all knew her as Jude (obviously without the girl bit at the end as Judeboy wasn't around then) but she used a different name when at work. Both of these names were completely different from the one on her birth certificate.

Chaucer's Bitch said...

That's probably what'll end up happening.

I had a friend lo these many years ago who was born Mary Jessica Something-or-Other, and she changed her name to Bianca Fernchild. We all agreed it suited her much better.

GreatSheElephant said...

what does the Pirate think about Mara? Or haven't you told him yet?

Babs said...

I had a similar problem with my name (well not QUITE similar). For YEARS my father threatened people with DEATH for calling me Jenny instead of Jen or Jennifer (yep, I win the *most boring name in the world sweepstakes*--bloody Love Story). It wasn't until someone I absolutely ADORED (read: party of the male type that I had the hots for) started calling me Jenny that I liked it (reports of giddy-type behavior will be denied. Adamantly). I say go by either or, doesn't matter.

And don't worry about the P-word!! Some of us are living vicariously here--so carry on!!

First Nations said...

Tell Fernchild she has to give herself a big 'ol twirlie every morning for the rest of her life for naming herself that.

Holy geeze.